Celebrating First Failure of a pure learning Mind

The First failed Attempt

Today, My 6 months young Son, officially made his first attempt towards independence. This step is to learn crawling. Today he took a leap of faith and tried to move forward and start to crawl. But Alas, he failed and fell on the floor with head banging on the floor in the maiden attempt towards Crawling. He started crying immediately as a natural reflex.

I picked him up immediately and hugged him and consoled his tears for a few seconds and again gave him the chance to retry. I just wanted to ensure he does not imbibe the feeling of fear. He kept trying for sometime but he did not fell down again also his efforts were not of the same intensity, I would say. I guess the fell down moment was still very fresh in his mind. Will try again tomorrow and see if he still remembers the embarrassing moment he had. He however, don’t understand all the society norms and what will people say.

Just wanted to highlights few observations i had during these awesome moments which we as parents cherish and he as a child went through. There are a few hidden lessons, see if you can catch them.

• He had to have a patience of Six months to actually take that first Step towards crawling or independence.
• Our parents told it will take 6 months before he can actually proceed to start. It was there experience which we reused and they said once he starts to sit, he will be ready for next steps.
• Parents told us we as parents and he as a child had to come out of the Comfort Zone of our Bed to the floor to help him take the big leap of faith.
• We needed a goal i.e. a toy for him which he can look towards to accomplish or grab.
• He did not even try to reach even his favorite toy, If kept very far.
• It had to be kept in such a distance, which he think that it is in his range.
• He was distracted every now and then by sometimes his thumb or his clothes or other sounds or shadows of mine and the toy.
• We had to keep pointing towards his toy and continously grab his attention and motivate him to reach out to his favorite toy.
• He was so happy when he was able to grab the toy without actually crawling. He did grab it 2-3 times as the distance was less and by now he got the confidence that he can grab it always if its in his range.
• When we started to increase the distance he streched himself and still able to grab the toy.
• Now came that moment, the leap of faith. He broke the mental barrier, it was time to think out of the box and try something he never did before. He tried to move his legs out of the way and tried to plunge forward to grab the toy again moving out of his comfort zone. But he fell head on to the floor and started crying almost immediately. And believe me it was a lot for him to do.
• I immediately, after consoling for few seconds started laughing as whenever I laugh he also starts laughing. And this worked. Again my bonding with him and experiences with him helped me to take him through this phase. Apparently he forget that he banged his head just few seconds ago.
• Now when he was attempting second time the intensity was not same and probably the confidence was less. May be the subconscious mind at work.
• We also need to be very patient and trust him to make his moves and also keep him in the game to reach his favorite toy.
• He was distracted a lot this time. Paying less attention towards the toy and all. Trying only when he knew the toy is exactly in his range. Taking lessor risk. But this is just a beginning.

I truly Loved and enjoyed these moments.

Will learn something new with him tomorrow with fresh attempt and refreshed energy levels and probably he will have a clear sub concious mind.

Look forward to another failure in the journey to success

You can let me know in the comments if you could catch the lessons and if you could relate this to your professional life.